On the 12th day of Christmas...

On the 12th day of Christmas... the gift of letting go.

Darn, I didn't get that recipe book for my mom that I said I was going to get back in November...

Shoot, our cards will be lucky to get there before New Years...

Hell, I haven't heard from Shirley in years, so I didn't send her a card this year... I just got one from her yesterday!

Hmmm, it's the 25th - the phone bill was due three days ago...

What's that beeping? The gingerbread cookies!! Anyone need me to fix their brick wall?

Oh yeah, it's 9:30 and I haven't written my 11th and 12th day Christmas blog...

Ahh, Christmas is over. It's time to let these things go... until next year.

Peace,
T

The 11th day of Christmas... go homemade

On the 11th day of Christmas my true love made for me... homemade bread bowls for our traditional Christmas Eve soup!

Seriously, don't underestimate the joy people receive upon getting something that you made yourself this holiday.

It could be homemade cookies, kid's artwork, those adorable handmade ornaments, or an apron with your kids' handprints on it for Grandpa. Carve out some time, put on the holiday tunes (we like the Squirrel Nut Zippers swingin' instrumental of Sleigh Ride), pull out the paints or the recipe and get to work! This year we made sugar cookies in the shapes of cowboy boots, cactuses, snowmen, and teradactyls and passed them out to friends. Unfortunately my kids fizzled after the first dozen, so loved ones received ONE cookie, but hey. It was the thought that was supersized!

"It came without ribbons. It came without tags. It came without packages, boxes or bags..."*-- Dr. Seuss, The Grinch Who Stole Christmas

Enjoy,
T

The 10th day of Christmas... QT

Hopefully you've arrived at your destination (if you're traveling this season), having offset your footprint with my favorite organization: carbonfund.org (key - the dot org, and you've come bearing some thoughtful gifts either baked, homemade or bought locally, wrapped in the Sunday comics. You're so green you feel like Kermit!

Now it's time for some Buddha mind and Buddha body. The idea: sharing quality time with yourself and others around the holidays. The reality: reliving old patterns from a shared history of dysfunction.

Ok. That was really cynical. But let's face it, one of the biggest challenges to staying present in the moment is when we are sharing four walls with people who have known us our whole lives (family). It was Ram Dass who said, "If you think you are enlightened, go spend a week with your family."

So my best advice: if you can, hang with the younger crowd. My kids have been my best teachers in living in the NOW. They live every second for exactly what it is. They won't let you leap to the future (me: "Ok. I need to go start the dinner now" Kids: "no you don't. Keep playing with us!") I'm famous for telling my son what we've planned for the day when I still have my pajamas on. By the time I'm finished with my sentence, he's halfway out the door. Ready to go.

Second piece: give yourself and others space. When your sister-in-law makes that backdoor comment about your cooking that you knew was coming try something totally new: non-reaction. See what happens. More often than not, it works like a mirror for the person, and will likely cause a realization of the negatively-charged nature of the comment. You may even hear your sister-in-law apologize! Seriously, try it.

Also, if you can, take a few moments (in a spare bedroom, outside, in the car) to find stillness. Check in with your body. Cleanse it with some deep breaths. Return to yourself.

On the 10th day of Christmas, the best gift is conscious breathing.

Peace,
T

On the 9th day of Christmas...downtown

Hopefully you have already hit the holiday market at the pavilion end of the downtown mall. We last minute shoppers took advantage of all the great handmade crafts there today, the last day of the market. (I just bought my mom some cool earrings made from recycled wrapping paper!)

The good news: You can still shop the Innisfree store. This store is a project of Innisfree Village , a non-profit community assisting adults with mental disabilities. All proceeds from the store benefit Innisfree Village. Their weavery, woodshop, and bakery, and other self-help crafts are made here (in Crozet) as well as from other low-income villages around the globe.

Also, O'Susannah, on the west end of the downtown mall, has a nice selection of groovy, cool eco-friendly products. I have a cool calendar made from recycled paper and soy ink from a company out of San Francisco on my wish list. They also sell a line of cards from Waste Not Paper - a company who uses excess scraps of paper from mills. For my girlfriend in Asheville, I bought a unique bamboo postcard here .

Also, if you head east on Preston Ave you can stop by the Blue Ridge Eco-shop at Preston Plaza. This shop specializes in all things green. One of my favorites is their "plant-a-note" cards. Gift giving times two: after enjoying your hearfelt message, your receiver can then plant this card in soil, give it sunshine and water, and voila -- wildflowers begin to grow! Don't miss their recycled paper wrapping and their soy pinecone candles.

Enjoy!
T

On the 8th day of Christmas... Rt 29N

Hey there, you 29N e-conscious shoppers...

If you can make it safely past the corporate, consumer magnet that is Target, look to your left, and you will see a beacon of light: newly-opened Nature's Child (who just celebrated their 2 month anniversary). Though I'd like to see more products made closer to home (i.e. lower embedded energy), they've got a nice selection of wooden toys and organic clothing. They have a line of toys from Vermont called "My Train" which are very cute and multifunctional, as well as a "Balance Bike" - I'll let Kristin, the owner, explain that one. They also offer a discount for bringing in a reusable bag for your purchases.

If you're up that way, you may also want to hit the latest and greatest natural grocery store: All Goods Groceries. Grab a cup of locally roasted, fair trade, organic coffee and roam the aisles for eco-friendly cleaning products and organic yummies. Josh and Kathleen, the owners, are phenomenal at customer service.

If you like to go green buy buying your basics in bulk at Sam's club(less packaging = less dead tree), I've heard they have an ever-growing selection of eco-friendly products. I went there in October to take advantage of their huge deal on CFL lightbulbs (13 for 16 dollars!.

Happy Seminole Trails,
T

On the 7th day of Christmas...

The intention of these holiday blogs is not to go too heavy on the purchases. But the next three days I will be highlighting some of the local green goods in three geographical areas: North 29, downtown/main street and Barracks Road. If you have to consume, do it consciously, wisely, locally.

I'll begin with Barracks Road.

I know it's hard to believe that amidst all the mass mayhem going on at Barracks Road Shopping this time of year that it's possible to practice conscious living and wise purchasing, but I believe it can be done.

At Plow and Hearth, a Virginia-based company, I was able to find a cool simple, wooden designed stocking hook for the mantel made from a company in Vermont, Christmas Cove Designs as well as quality soy (as opposed to petroleum-based) candles.

Next stop, Rebecca's for a gift-certificate. This small grocer has really upped the ante in terms of going green with their newly-renovated store. Stop in, poke around, drink Kombucha (my friend swears by it!).

Last stop, Blue-Ridge Mountain Sports. John Holden, General Manager of the store is a community leader in terms of environmental issues. He's a great guy and I've heard an even better guide. Before stopping in, go through your coat closet and find one to donate (they are giving them to the Piedmont House). Then you can pick out a cool new Patagonia shirt (according to Holden, an industrial leader for many years in terms of "green"ness) made from all-recycled material.

Deck the halls,
T

On the sixth day of Christmas... go live and local

Give the gift of live music by purchasing a gift certificate for someone you love at Gravity Lounge, Charlottesville's best local venue for live shows.

I just recently enjoyed Devon Sproule, Danny Schmidt and the whole "King of My Living Room" crew there.

Gravity offers a nice array of munchies besides their fully-packed bar. Their best side dish is the array of books you can peruse in between sets. Last time I was there I took a moment to peruse both "Contacting the Cosmos" and "The Complete Book of Aphrodisiacs" - purely by coincidence, I'm sure.

Seriously, it's an ultra Zen location that has the unique potential to warm your soul during these cold winter months.

Best,
T

On the fifth day of Christmas... give the gift of life

Did you know that more than 2,000 people are currently waiting for a life-saving organ transplant in Virginia, which means that each week THREE Virginians will die waiting for it?

Please give the gift of life by declaring yourself an organ and tissue donor.

There are two easy ways to sign up online:
at save7lives.org in Virginia or organdonor.gov elsewhere in the US.

I really like the honest, informative, and direct layout of save7lives.org.

If you have already designated yourself as an organ donor on your license, that means you are automatically transferred to save7lives. If you would like to confirm that you are in there, it just takes a few minutes.

If you have thought about being a donor, but still have questions, I recommend their easy-to-navigate myths/facts section. If you have any religious concerns, both sites can address those.

Live consciously:
When you declare yourself a donor, your body is able to provide more than just your organs: in addition tissues, stem cells, blood and platelets. Collectively this can improve or save the lives of as many as 50 individuals!

Make a difference:
Sign up to be an organ donor today. Share your donation decision with your family (so that they understand your wishes)

Make a bigger difference:
Share your concern for saving lives with your friends and family.

Best,
T

On the fourth day of Christmas...

At this time of year every parent feels the burden and (let's face it, sometimes the irritation) at the prospect of giving the dreaded "teacher gifts" to their sons' or daughters' teachers. Especially when you're my neighbor who has four kids, times the number of teachers each has, times the principal, oh yeah and what about the secretary...yikes.

I can call a spade a spade on this one because I was a teacher once upon a time and, though it probably sounds ungrateful, I didn't need all those coffee mugs and icky-sweet brownies.

My son's school Stone Robinson Elementary School in Albemarle County has come up with a wonderful alternative to gift-giving which is nothing less than genius: teachers post a wish list for items they would like to use in their classroom. Total win-win. You just walk in and check out the bulletin board, buy wisely, and abracadabra, it's done. I encourage you to bring this practice to your PTOs and preschools.


That being said, another idea for thoughtful giving is to ditch the gift altogether and sit down and write a meaningful note to the teacher. I read an article in the Post several years ago which described a new study which found that teachers overwhelmingly prefer a kind note over any gift.

I can vouch for this as a former middle-school teacher. I still have the note that Don Dunn's mom gave me that expressed her appreciation eloquently and sincerely --her son had found a "cool" teacher who helped him discover the joy of reading. I've kept all the heart-felt letters, but I'm down to one Christmas mug and I can't remember who gave it to me.

Whichever you choose, don't underestimate the power of kind words this holiday.

Peace,
T

On the third day of Christmas...

My true love gave to me...

An action that spoke louder than words.

This season don't forget the value of "doing" a kindness, rather than purchasing one.

My husband was a perfect example last night. I had planned on giving him the night off by taking the kids to a holiday party while he relaxed. He had a bout of insomnia the night before in addition to working several hours on a Saturday afternoon, so I told him to catch a movie or go to bed early.

No sooner had the kids and I arrived at the party, I heard his voice at the door, to my extreme delight. He wanted to spend the night with me and our boys!

Whether it's volunteering to babysit your friends' kids for the afternoon while she reads her book at a favorite coffee shop or offering to give a soothing massage to your loved one after work, remember...

The best portion of a good man's life [are] his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love. ~William Wordsworth

Peace,
T

On the second day of Christmas...

On the second day of Christmas, Betty's true love gave to her...

holdings in a socially responsible investment fund!

I know we all want to retire at age fifty so we are still young enough to hike and play the banjo and paint and/or just eat bon-bons on the beach if we want.
But that doesn't mean you have to put all your money in big, bad corporations with the carbon footprint of Shaquille O'Neil!

Introducing, socially responsible investing. Ask your financial investor which are the hot new green growth funds or alternative energy funds, ensuring a lighter environmental bang for your buck, so to speak.

Socially Responsible Investing is a borad-based approach to investing which encourages corporate responsiblity as it relates to a variety of societal concerns: from employee/employer relations, environmental concerns, to animal testing even weapons/defense spending. Check out socialinvest.org for more information!

Peace,
T

The Twelve Days of Christmas...

This is the giving season and as people of many different faiths and spiritual practices, it may very well be a time that you set aside to think of others. Welcome to Betty's Twelve Days of Christmas: ideas for simplifying and greening the holidays!

On the first day of Christmas my true love gave to me...

A new, gently used, or borrowed copy of Unplug the Christmas Machine by by Jo Robinson and Jean C. Staeheli. Ten years ago I read this life-changing book that transformed a frenetic, harried, consumer-driven holiday into a more fulfilling practice of showing love. I highly recommend it. Besides giving you a wide selection of fun ideas for giving, it also allows you to lead the way for simplicity among your families and co-workers and neighbors.

Enjoy!
T

Idle cars/trucks/buses are the devil's workshop...

I'm happy to announce that I kicked off my "voluntary no-idling" campaign at all Wachovia Banks starting today with a simple phone call! Quit jumping up and down and let me begin by "clearing the air" surrounding idling/turning your engines off and perhaps you will find it in your heart (or I should say lungs) to join me.


Myth:

It takes more fuel to restart than remain idling.

Fact:

Ten seconds of idling uses more fuel than turning off the engine and restarting it. If you use more fuel, you emit more CO2 (which is the number one greenhouse gas linked to climate change.

Myth:

It is important to warm up the engine.

Fact:

Idling actually causes significantly more wear on the internal parts of a vehicle.

Also, idling produces many more harmful emissions. Over nine minutes, for example, an idling car will emit double the pollutants of a car that is turned off and then restarted.

So here's what you Bettys and Baldwins can do:
1. live consciously: Turn off your engine if you're going to be idle for more than a minute.
2. make a difference: Inform your family and friends about the importance of turning off the engine.
3. make a bigger difference: call 1-704-590-5330 (the Wachovia Customer Listen line - you actually talk to a human being!) and urge them to have a no-idling policy at their drive-thrus. Or consider instituting a voluntary no-idling policy at your son or daughters school (Albemarle County already has this policy in place for their buses - way to go and the city has recently adopted this policy for their fleet as well)

Pass the word on about idling. And we'll all breathe easier!

Peace,
T

Easy being green? I don't think so... #5

As we approach the darkest day of winter, I think it's important to recognize the darker more frustrating side of going green.

Let's take grocery shopping, for example:
Let me first explain my personal shopping strategy. Foremost, shop without the kids! I love them like crazy, but I get tired of fending off the pull of the mass-marketing vortex. We got burned by that last time when in a weak moment I bought Raisin Bran cereal, stupidly thinking my son would eat it after a long talk about the fact that just because Jack Sparrow is on the cover doesn't mean it tastes good! He ate nary a bite, mate.

Not to mention that with the way I'm reading labels these days -- scanning for high-fructose corn syrup (a word elevated to profanity in our house), the packaging (plastics 1 or 2, please), and checking from when it's been shipped (from North America would be nice) -- it takes me more than an hour to shop and by then the kids are slugging each other!

My secondary strategies: I won't gas guzzle around shopping at five different grocers. I try to keep it to two stores, max. twice a week (drive less); I make a menu; and I buy local and organic when possible.

But I drove away feeling the dark side of trying to "eat green" after my venture to Whole Foods Grocer, which many people believe has the largest selection of "local" foods.

I couldn't find a single Virginia apple in there.

So I lowered my expectations to this side of the coast. No can do. I would say 90% of the vegetables were shipped from California.

Now I need eggs - but my head again starts spinning because I recently learned that "free-range" doesn't mean that the chickens get to roam just anywhere they want. You want the "pastured" variety. Nothing with that label, so I opt for the free-range with the highest Omega 3's.

Next, I roam the canned-food isle looking for chicken broth and I notice the majority of the broths and soups come in Tetra-paks which I just learned are non-recycleable except in England. My husband would probably believe it if I saved the tetra-pak for recycling during his next trip there, but...alas, I buy the aluminum cans instead.

It's enough to make someone crazy!

But I've got to remember this: I'm aware and I'm trying. And I'm trusting that this tide that is turning as we speak, will one day succeed in making healthy choices for me, my kids, and the environment a lot easier. And it's not about being a "Perfect Pollyanna" it's about being a "Better Betty"!

Peace,
T